So, love, that force which connects us all, the essence which makes us at some deep level realize that we all know each other from before, is a given; however, it is the mind of likes and dislikes the one that separates us and finds excuses to believe that we do not belong together.
So, when it comes to romantic feelings, our minds choose to see the negativity or the positivity in the relationship. The behaviors of a person could bring either that negativity or positivity as well, but we choose if to give those behaviors real importance or not. And it is a very personal decision.
Still, one must be able to keep the mind of likes and dislikes in peace and clear from any anger and anxiety in order to judge if to forgive those behaviors or not. Most of the time, people tend to jump to conclusions and judge immaturely and impulsively, without patience, without stepping back and observing the whole picture.
To do this, to step back, breathe and calm yourself in order to make the right decisions, one must be not just the significant other, the lover, but also the friend who understands and supports. Friendship, unattached and understanding, is vital to make any relationship work, specially a romantic one.
A friend can see your flaws and weaknesses and understand you better than a lover can. A friend cares enough to sit down quietly and listen without judging you. A friend gives you the space and the time you need to develop yourself intellectually and emotionally.
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