She was also helped with a new job and moral support. The woman helping her friend was a very nice and kind person, morally upright, and saw herself as doing kindness in helping her friend without expecting anything in return.
But at the same she carried a little resentment after she had helped her friend for almost a year, because as nice as she was she had subconsciously been expecting a thank you and a heartfelt speech of gratitude from her friend who was now traveling to live with her mother and doing much better.
Now, this can be misunderstood by people when you are not truly awakened and aware of your ego. Expecting a thanks or some kind of recognition or gratitude is actually doing business, and doing business is a trade for your own benefit, your own profit–i.e., I help you, you give me psychological and emotional rewards by giving me gratitude and by owing me one if I ever need your help.
This business, which you might carry out unconsciously, is not doing something out of your kindness, no matter what society says or teaches about this. If you do help somebody, you do it ENTIRELY out of your heart and without ANY expectation of benefit whatsoever.
If you expect something, even small, in return for your kindness, isn’t that turning into business…?? So, when you do something, you do it right because you feel morally guided to do right, and not because you seek some emotional benefit for the building of your ego.
Study yourself in this. Do not allow yourself to be unconscious when it comes to giving; for love only gives, expands outwardly, it does not make business or trades–only the ego trades and expects some sort of reward for kindness given.
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