Whatever you feel is your own making, because whatever you feel has been created by a stream of thoughts you chose, perhaps thoughts you chose out of a bad situation; nevertheless, you chose that thought and you chose how you feel right now.
Quite often people get into certain situations, or accept the behavior of other people, or endure such and such suffering because they expect it or that person to change–i.e., they expect the apple tree to stop giving apples and give oranges instead.
When you are nurturing flowers in your garden you do not expect the weeds around them to just disappear on their own just because you wished it so, right?? If the weeds choke the flowers or if the weeds bring you some form of suffering, then it is your own fault; for you were expecting the weeds nature to change and adjust to your naive wishes.
So, the expectation was the thoughts you followed in your ignorance, and no one can be blamed for that but you; for it all happens in your mind. Life is about this, about knowing yourself and your psychology, coming to terms with and understanding your own thinking process. Why…??
Because your thinking process designs how you feel and what you experience–i.e., a “broken heart,” depression, joy, misery, jealousy, happiness, excitement, anger, etc.; it is all your thinking process and the thoughts you entertain daily.
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